Why do we do it?

      Why is it we spend so much time depending on other people, or specific circumstances for our happiness?

      I'll finally be happy when I find Mr. or Mrs. Right - I'll finally be happy when I get a new job -  I'll finally be happy when this or that happens...
     Chances are, even if you think at the time those things will bring you a significant amount of happiness, there will always be something else to wait for, something else to anticipate.
     Why do we do it?
     Life shouldn't be about waiting for happiness, or depending on others to bring it to you. You have to make your own joy, where ever you may be, and at whatever point you are in life.
      Life has a way of throwing curve balls.
     Expect surprises - and not always the kind you want. You have to accept things for what they are, and move past. If you don't, you're wasting time. And if you haven't already figured it out, time goes by fairly quickly.
      Seize opportunities.
      Don't allow yourself, or someone else, to talk you out of something you want. You'll learn that opportunity very rarely knocks more than once, and if you don't answer, it moves on. There's nothing like that feeling of regret when opening the door too late and no one is there.
      Take chances.
      Even if you fail, at least you tried. If you don't, how will you live with the 'what if'? Let people gossip, let them talk crap about you, criticize you...at least you're making someone's life a little more interesting because of your actions - but be proud of yourself for taking action; some people never do. You won't make everyone happy, but why are you trying? It doesn't matter who's happy with your choices if you're not.
      Don't expect support.
      This is a hard one. The people in your life who you thought would support you the most sometimes don't. It will hurt your feelings. It will make you doubt yourself and your ability - ultimately ending up limiting your opportunities. Even though these people may care about you, perhaps they're only looking out for their own best interests. You have to forgive them, but you don't have to allow them to pack your bags for the guilt trip.
      Day to day humdrum, stuck in a rut, same 'ol, same 'ol - it's difficult not to hope something better is right around the corner...something that will finally make you happy.
      But, what we tend to forget is that THIS is it.
      Do you have time to wait for happiness?
      Today could be the end, tomorrow might be your last day, a week from now or maybe even a year. Truth of it is, no one on earth knows.
      Are you willing to gamble away the guarantee of the life you have at this very moment?


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